Why do I have delayed ejaculation?


In today’s society one of the most common complaint and the most bothering sexual problem is delayed orgasm. You may be surprised but it is not only a problem of women but of men as well. The problem of a diametrically opposed has become the talk of the town.

Why does a man have delayed ejaculation?

Many girls get very depressed, having no idea why their partner can not ejaculate for a long time, can not orgasm or simply speaking why a guy does not cum. Women have a tendency to blame themselves first of all. However there are certain causes why a man can not ejaculate for so long:

  • Sometimes we call a problem the situation which is not a problem at all. Every human being is unique and duration and the amount of sex directly depends on the sexual constitution of a man. So first of all, a woman should talk to her man;
  • If too long sexual intercourse is unusual for your man, alcohol may be responsible for this. Among men a stereotype is widespread that a bit of alcohol will make a better intercourse, help to loosen up and be more sexually creative. But too much of alcohol will have influence on the central nervous system and slow down the transmission of impulses to the brain. In the result, a longer intercourse will be a logical consequence;
  • Another reason of a delayed orgasm are stress and its treatment affecting almost every person today. Antidepressants heal the nerves and sexual activity. In this case, be as delicate as possible because failures in bed may only exacerbate stress;
  • A psychological reason of the problem why a man does not ejaculate for a long time is also common. There are a lot of perfectionists among men who strive o success every time and everywhere including their sexual life with their woman. Their enthusiasm with the idea to give pleasure to a woman makes them forget about their own pleasure and to refrain from the orgasm. Try to explain to your man that a woman can reach the orgasm by many different ways and not only by intensive frictions. Show him how to do things with his hands and tongue;
  • If a man is not a perfectionist, does not drink alcohol and his life is far from stressful, think about visiting a specialist. The reason of the problem may be endocrine and reproductive system disorders, oncology,  congenital anomalies of the urogenital system. If you delay seeing a doctor, you delay the return of orgasms into a man’s life.

Why does a woman have delayed orgasm?

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According to the statistics, the question «Why do I not have orgasm» worries women more often. Before trying to search the problems in a sexual life, remember that every woman has unique physiology explaining certain difficulties with getting sexual pleasure. From the biological point of view, a female orgasm is a rudimentary remnant just like nipples in men or clitoris (which is actually an undeveloped penis). From the reproduction point of view, a woman does not need an orgasm , for this reason it is more difficult for a woman to reach it as it is not a natural phenomenon. A female orgasm received its value in the course of human social evolution. Besides, sexual activity peak in women is 30-35 years old.





However we should be aware of the factors which may have a negative influence on reaching a female orgasm:

  • Lack of partners’ experience plays a huge role. Sexologists believe that the lack of orgasm until 23-25 years old is a norm;
  • Psychological factors: weak sexual arousal because a woman may be in no mood at the moment, discomfort, stress; social background with negative orientation towards sex or men (strict upbringing, religious agitation); factors that do not allow a woman to relax (fear of being nude, fear to become pregnant);
  • Hormonal changes related to the aging, administration of certain medications (oral contraceptives, antidepressants), alcohol or drugs;
  • Gynecological problems such as infectious and non-infectious disorders, recent childbirth;
  • Discomfort caused by the urogenital diseases.

We should not ignore the wrong sexual position when erogenous areas are not enough stimulated or when the size of a man’s penis is not big enough for a woman, or a simple lack of sexual compatibility.